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If you have never had tantra, book this one.

The first twenty or thirty minutes we sit and talk. I explain what tantra actually is, what it does with sexual energy, and what is about to happen in your body — in plain language, without the mysticism. Most men arrive with an idea of tantra that came from advertising, and it is usually wrong.

Ask anything you want in that time, including the things you are not sure you are allowed to ask. Almost everyone is nervous before a first session, and most of that nervousness is simply not knowing what is coming. The more you understand, the easier it is to let go — and letting go is what allows the energy to move.

The rest is the Tantra Massage, and knowing what is happening changes what you get from it. That is the entire reason this session exists. Nobody is watching a clock either — if we run over, we run over.

This is the tantric orgasm, and it is not the one you know.

No ejaculation, no ending, no drop afterwards — a state the body can hold and come back to. It comes out of tantric practice. I did not invent it.

This is not a first session. Most men who get somewhere with it have already done one with me, or come with some background — meditation, breathwork, a professional tantra session somewhere. It is not a rule and I have run it with men who had none. But the body has to know how to breathe and how to hold energy before it can do anything else with it, and learning that on the day costs you most of the session.

We talk first, as always. There are techniques in this one that have to be explained before they are any use to you — though if you have worked with me before, that is a short conversation. Either way the time is inside the session, and if we run over, we run over.

After the talk, the session opens with 45 min to 1 hr of intensive breathing, to open the whole body. Everything that follows is built on it, and it is the reason the session runs the length it does.

What I work with here, I practise myself. That is the only claim I make for it.

Just a very good massage, and a long one.

What makes it different from the massage down the road is partly what comes into the room with it. Gongs, drums, singing bowls, tingsha bells and a didgeridoo — played over you during the session, not performed at you beforehand. Hot stones through the winter months. Several other things a massage table rarely sees, and every one of them takes time to use properly.

The other part is the hands and what stands behind them — techniques built over twenty-five years, long years of meditation, and working with energy rather than with muscle alone. That is what takes a body into real surrender, and surrender does not arrive on schedule.

Anyone can spread oil over a body for two hours, though it gets boring quickly. A three-hour massage that stays interesting the whole way through, and still feels too short, is a different craft altogether, and that is the part the years went into.

1 hr is available on request and it is a proper massage, not a taster. It is simply not enough time for what this is — the extras never come out, and it is finished about the time the body has stopped arguing. 90 min is where the extras get their room. 2 hrs is where it becomes something you remember, and 3 hrs of this is hard to find anywhere. Take more if your time allows.

If you fall asleep, good. That is the session working.

This is a programme, not a session.

How you eat, how you move, how you sleep — the three things that decide how your body feels, and the three most men have never had explained by someone who actually does them. I have no papers to show you and I do not put much faith in certificates; I judge people by their results and would rather you judged me the same way. I show you what I do, and I have been doing it for twenty-five years.

Most of that time was spent testing it on myself. Vegetarian and then not, one way of eating and then another, training one way and then another. Food is only a part of it. What I was actually looking for was which things work and how to reach a result in the shortest time — so most of what I have to give you is the years of things that did not.

Three things come with that, and a plan off the internet has none of them. I know anatomy and I have had my hands on bodies for twenty-five years, so we do not train you into the injury that stops everything. I have tried enough methods to leave out the ones that waste your time. And I usually see the mental traps coming, which decides who arrives and who gives up far more than the training does.

What I ask at the start is three weeks of doing it as agreed. Experiment as much as you like afterwards — but nothing tells you whether something works until you have actually done it. If that many changes at once is not realistic for you, say so at the beginning: I will spread it over a longer period and build it around the time and the resources you actually have.

The methods are often unconventional. They are tested on me first and on many clients since, and they lean on what I know from massage and bodywork. What I will not do is put anything into your body to speed it up: no performance enhancers, nothing of that kind. Whole health is the point, and those things take more from a body than they give. I suggest and I recommend, and every decision stays yours.

It starts with two or three hours together while you are here: nutrition, breathing, a training programme, and the gym once if you want it. After that it carries on online for as long as it is useful.

Ask me and I will explain how it works.

The other half of the talking, and the half most men have nobody to ask about.

Sexual energy is not a fixed amount you are handed at twenty and spend for the rest of your life. It moves, it stalls, it gets blocked, and it can be worked with. Almost nobody is ever taught that, let alone how.

Less talking than the other half and more practice: the breathing, the three centres the energy has to pass through, and exercises you take away and do yourself. No massage and no oil.

I do not treat conditions, and anyone promising to fix this is selling you something.